"Neil Perry," he says with a little smile. "He was so worried about genuflecting at the wrong time or not knowing any of the proper hand motions."

He'd thought it sort of sweet at the time; he'd never met an Anglican that cared about what might happen in a Catholic service. He'd heard their rituals made fun of often enough, though.

"I'm not sure Fiona would have ever. She'd think it silly, maybe, or say there was no point in it."